When asked about my philosophy in regards to BDSM it made me pause to think. What indeed is my philosophy? So much of what I do is done by instinct, a perception of the energy flowing between myself and my submissive. I have never really given much thought to the actual philosophy behind my actions, so if it is a bit rough when I put it to words you will understand.
In the world of BDSM it is the soul that paves the path for those of us willing to undertake the journey into self realization and the exploration into the depths of our own sensuality and sexuality. This in a way, makes us all submissive but allows the ones that are inherently Dominant to arise and become a shoulder to those that find in themselves, the willingness and wish to follow the path of another, and thus go even deeper into themselves.
The relationship between a Dominant and Submissive is formed on the basis of respect, trust, mutual understanding and commitment. A strong hand guiding not a weak one, but one that seeks guidance and respect from a source of strength and knowledge. My own life experiences have led me into the realization that I am inherently dominant. It is neither a game to me nor something I simply play with. It is who I am, to the very core of my soul.
My experiences with my own Master, when I traveled down the path of knowledge, finding out whether I was truly submissive or truly Dominant, have come to shape me. I realized something I had always known. That my ability to help mold and shape a person into the person they desire to be, at their mind’s eye was uncanny. It is with grace and wisdom, a strong hand and my way that I will do the very same with you. You will be my student. Together, we will experience what Dominance, submission, love, lifestyle is for you. The depths of sexuality and sensuality, the boundaries that are there to be tested, will be tested and will be strengthened by the resolve and wealth of knowledge that I hold for you.
In being dominant I do not think of myself as any one title. Titles are for show. I think of myself as a Teacher, a Mother, a guiding hand. An endless bastion of knowledge and support through strength, resolve and determination. Being a Dominant and guiding a submissive for me is akin to true love. It is a lengthy relationship, constantly being tested by boundries that you and I will explore together. It will hurt sometimes; it will make us laugh and make us cry. It will take us to levels, emotions and experiences that you never thought possible.
In discovering your limits, we will discover your true feelings. In the bindings of pain and pleasure there is love and devotion that you will learn for me, the woman that will hold your very soul in her hands. To come to me, to follow me, to allow me to love and care for you in ways beyond any expectation, you will learn to release and to submit yourself soul first, mind second, body third and thus find eternal pleasure within.
Make no mistake, anyone can have phone sex and anyone can play Dominant or Submissive. It is those that are delving into the next realm of themselves that I am interested in teaching and growing with.
Alexandra Kelley
