What is a submissive and how do you know if you are one? I am here to tell you that there is no “sure fire” way of categorizing a person. My belief is that all of us have the tenancies of both a Dominant and a submissive within ourselves. One of the characteristics is usually stronger than the other so we tend to nurture it. Do you crave being cared for? After a long day of being ” the power player” in your day to day life do you want to come home and just turn yourself completely over to someone else? This are some of the indicators that could tell you that you may be submissive.
For a long time I tried to force myself into the submissive mold, thinking that I couldn’t possibly be anything but because of my utter lack of knowledge. Soon in my training I began to realize that my natural tenancies were geared towards being the Dominant in the relationship. Over the course of our time together, I intend to help you discover yourself. As a submissive you have the base power in this relationship, you may disagree with me, argue and set limits. The one thing that I will never allow you to do is disrespect me. As your dominant it is my job to guide and mold you. To push those limitations and expose you to new experiences. I will cherish you and help you through the bad times as well as the good.
As your chosen dominant I will naturally have expectations of you, my submissive. Questions if not clearly understood may be asked at any time.
I expect a submissive to be here because they want to be and in that I require honesty and loyalty. There can develop no bond between us if you are giving anything less.
Respect & Trust. I believe this is self explanatory and if you feel the need to question what it means, perhaps we are not meant to take this journey together.
Acceptance and an open mind. If you desire to be trained and taught by me, you are to be open minded and accepting of the new challenges I will provide to you. I will always strive to expose you to new experiences and press pass the fears that you hold deeply within.
Communication. Perhaps the most important aspect in our relationship. I expect my submissive’s to communicate their desires and perceived limitations. Safe words will always be set and used, homework occasionally assigned.
I encourage you to fill out my application and be complete as you can. It is one of the tools that I will use to discover whether we are a good match as dominant and submissive. I have also provided to you a few web sites and books to reference in your journey of self discovery, I hope that you enjoy them.
Alexandra Kelley recommends the following web sites:
Alexandra Kelley recommends the following reading:
The New Bottoming Book - Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
SM 101: A Realistic Introduction- Jay Wiseman
Different Loving : A Complete Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance and Submission - William Brame and Gloria Brame
